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Eliminate These 8 Things From Your Daily Routine

Eliminate These 8 Things From Your Daily Routine


If you get decent value from making to-do lists, you’ll get huge returns — in productivity, in improved relationships, and in your personal well-being — from adding these items to your not to-do list:

Every day, make the commitment not to:

1. Check my phone while I’m talking to someone.

You’ve done it. You’ve played the, “Is that your phone? Oh, it must be mine,” game. You’ve tried the you-think-sly-but-actually-really-obvious downwards glance. You’ve done the, “Wait, let me answer this text…” thing.

Maybe you didn’t even say, “Wait.” You just stopped talking, stopped paying attention, and did it.

Want to stand out? Want to be that person everyone loves because they make you feel, when they’re talking to you, like you’re the most important person in the world?

Stop checking your phone. It doesn’t notice when you aren’t paying attention.

Other people? They notice.

And they care.

2. Multitask during a meeting.

The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to be the person who pays the most attention to the room.

You’ll be amazed by what you can learn, both about the topic of the meeting and about the people in the meeting if you stop multitasking and start paying close attention. You’ll flush out and understand hidden agendas, you’ll spot opportunities to build bridges, and you’ll find ways to make yourself indispensable to the people who matter.

It’s easy, because you’ll be the only one trying.

And you’ll be the only one succeeding on multiple levels.

3. Think about people who don’t make any difference in my life.

Trust me: The inhabitants of planet Kardashian are okay without you.

But your family, your friends, your employees–all the people that really matter to you–are not. Give them your time and attention.

They’re the ones who deserve it.

4. Use multiple notifications.

You don’t need to know the instant you get an email. Or a text. Or a tweet. Or anything else that pops up on your phone or computer.

If something is important enough for you to do, it’s important enough for you to do without interruptions. Focus totally on what you’re doing. Then, on a schedule you set–instead of a schedule you let everyone else set–play prairie dog and pop your head upto see what’s happening.

And then get right back to work. Focusing on what you are doing is a lot more important than focusing on other people might be doing.

They can wait. You, and what is truly important to you, cannot.

5. Let the past dictate the future.

Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them.

Then let them go.

Easier said than done? It all depends on your perspective. When something goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn something you didn’t know–especially about yourself.

When something goes wrong for someone else, turn it into an opportunity to be gracious, forgiving, and understanding.

The past is just training. The past should definitely inform but in no way define you —unless you let it.

6. Wait until I’m sure I will succeed.

You can never feel sure you will succeed at something new, but you can always feel sure you are committed to giving something your best.

And you can always feel sure you will try again if you fail.

Stop waiting. You have a lot less to lose than you think, and everything to gain.

7. Talk behind someone’s back.

If only because being the focus of gossip sucks. (And so do the people who gossip.)

If you’ve talked to more than one person about something Joe is doing, wouldn’t everyone be better off if you stepped up and actually talked to Joe about it? And if it’s “not your place” to talk to Joe, it’s probably not your place to talk about Joe.

Spend your time on productive conversations. You’ll get a lot more done–and you’ll gain a lot more respect.

8. Say “yes” when I really mean “no.”

Refusing a request from colleagues, customers, or even friends is really hard. But rarely does saying no go as badly as you expect. Most people will understand, and if they don’t, should you care too much about what they think?

When you say no, at least you’ll only feel bad for a few moments. When you say yes to something you really don’t want to do you might feel bad for a long time — or at least as long as it takes you to do what you didn’t want to do in the first place.

Read more: http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/8-things-you-should-not-do-every-day.html?nav=pop#ixzz2r2VSnYFD

“No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.”

“No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.”

Nice !

19 Hard Things You Need To Do To Be Successful

19 Hard Things You Need To Do To Be Successful


You have to do the hard things. 

  • You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.
  • You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.
  • You have to give more than you get in return right away.
  • You have to care more about others than they care about you.
  • You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.
  • You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter.
  • You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.
  • You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.
  • You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.
  • You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.
  • You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.
  • You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts.”
  • You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.
  • You have to try and fail and try again.
  • You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.
  • You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.
  • You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.
  • You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.
  • You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

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Be strong you never know who you are inspiring

be strong you never know who you are inspiring

Interesting point of view .

Why You Need To Cut Ties: If Your Friendships Aren’t Benefitting You, They’re Holding You Back

Interesting article , thought I would share .

Why You Need To Cut Ties: If Your Friendships Aren’t Benefitting You, They’re Holding You Back


Wellness
Paul HudsonJan 13, 2014 – 3:15pm

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Relationships are essential to leading a happy life. In fact, one could make the argument that all that matters in life is our interaction with each other. Human interaction is necessary; our minds feed off it in order to function properly. In a sense, interaction is what makes us human; healthy, strong relationships teach us to be compassionate and to value life. For this reason, it is crucial we only allow ourselves to engage in good relationships, avoiding negative ones.

However, there is always more we can do to profit from our lives and our relationships. We can focus our energy only on beneficial relationships. Good relationships can be beneficial, but that isn’t always the case. Sometimes, what we consider a good relationship would be better referred to as a relationship that isn’t bad: It’s not exactly good, but it’s not bad, so it’s good by default. The majority of us have at least one or two of these “not bad” relationships. While it may not seem like a big deal to entertain such relationships, it is.

Those who are most present in our lives become significant in our lives, whether we wish for it or not. By simply being present and by our awareness of their presence, these people become a part of our lives, part of us. The brain doesn’t so much forget as it does misfile; all the people that you’ve ever met, those you’ve even just noticed, are floating around in that head of yours, affecting your thoughts in one way or another — at least on some occasions.

You won’t notice this, of course, but our memories become points on an intricate web of memories, which connects to full thoughts and later to actions. The more present a person is in our life, the more we interact with him or her, and the more we tend to think about this person. The more we think about him or her, the more he or she influences every other thought that goes on in our heads.

Of course, who’s to say that some poor, or even terrible, relationships don’t lead to great ideas and amazing results? However, seeing as positive relationships lead to a happier you, and since a happier you is a more efficient you, it would be wise to stick with beneficial relationships.

Beneficial relationships come in many shapes and sizes, but what it comes down to is whether or not the total benefit of each relationship has a positive or negative effect on your life. It’s simple math. Take out a piece of paper and list all the perks of being in any given relationship, as well as all the ways you are worse off because of the relationship.

If the difference is positive, the relationship may be worth keeping. The values you assign to each benefit and negative impact are completely up to you. It really depends on what you value the most. For some, relationships are completely about honesty and support; for other’s, it’s all about access to a rooftop pool and a 72-inch TV on game day.

Next, you can’t forget to adjust for the tradeoffs. There is only so much time in a day, and socializing takes up a lot of time. The busier you are with other things, the less time you have to spend on friends and lovers. If we wish to have the best lives we can possibly have, then we have no choice but to prioritize our relationships.

When it comes down to it, for every relationship you have, you are technically giving up the time that could have been occupied by another social interaction, another relationship. This is the tradeoff. Statistically speaking, you’ll be happier if you keep your “close” relationships to about five.

Once you start hitting double digits, each relationship you have begins to suffer because you simply don’t have enough time to maintain them. That’s something I should have mentioned earlier: Relationships require maintenance. But you already knew that.

Deciding which relationships you should keep requires some calculation and deep thought. Usually, relationships don’t need to be cut off entirely. It’s really more about spending time on the relationships that count and, most importantly, decapitating those that are destructive. Unfortunately, this is usually easier said than done.

Even more difficult than ending friendships is cutting off romantic relationships. Usually, the more poisonous these relationships are, the more we try to hang on to them and convince ourselves that they’re actually good for us. Getting your life together takes courage; no one is saying otherwise. It really comes down to how badly you want to reach your full potential, and how happy you’ll be getting there.

Sometimes you win , sometimes you learn

Sometimes you win , sometimes you learn

Indeed no such as loosing if you learn and then get up to fight again ,

It’s all about learning and moving on keep trying .

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Nothing is impossible , even the word itself says I’m possible

Nothing is impossible , even the word itself says I’m possible

Let’s lock and load

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Dreams don’t work unless you do

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If You Snooze, You Lose: Why Getting Up Early Is Essential To Success

If You Snooze, You Lose: Why Getting Up Early Is Essential To Success


“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”  There’s a reason this old saying has stuck around: getting up early benefits your health, your career, and your sanity. Breaking ties with your warm bed in the morning is painful, but it’s like removing a band-aid: one way or another it has to be done.  Try ripping off the band-aid a little faster and giving yourself the luxury of enjoying some or all of these perks.

Time

You may think that those extra fifteen minutes in bed will make you more relaxed for the morning, but will they really if you then have to rush like crazy to get out the door?  Go to bed fifteen minutes earlier the night before instead, because you don’t really need to watch another episode of whatever you’re currently addicted to.

Then, do yourself a favor and slow down your morning by getting up a little bit earlier—you’ll be calm and collected as you begin your day.  Hell, maybe even give yourself time to read the news.  Start your day by informing yourself about the world, because knowledge is power.


Exercise

Dare I say this?  Exercise in the morning.  I know, exercise is probably the most difficult thing in the world.  However, no one EVER regretted getting up early to exercise after the fact.  Even if your workout consists of a few yoga poses while you’re still in bed, you’ll get your energy levels up and start your metabolism for the day.

If you wake yourself up with exercise, then you might be able to resist that pastry at the office because your body won’t be craving a quick sugary energy shot.  So, pull it together and set a reachable goal for yourself–maybe you can’t get outside to run in the morning, but you can do twenty crunches in your bedroom.  Start small and focus on developing consistency.


Nature

Dawn is probably the most under-appreciated time of day.  There’s dew on the ground, the air is fresh, and the sunlight is just starting to creep into the sky in beautiful sunrise colors.

At dawn, there’s a feeling of rebirth as the new day begins.  Go for a ten-minute walk to get your blood flowing and soak up that splendid dawn energy.  What better way to begin your day than to embrace that feeling of new life and channel it into your ideas and actions?  Get inspired.


Breakfast

Breakfast, done right, is hands down the best meal of the day. Take a little time to make it delicious—cook a fancy omelet, brew a great pot of coffee, or even just make sure your toast is browned the way you like it.

Think about the difference between how your body feels after (1) a late-night pizza binge and (2) an awesome a.m. smoothie.  There’s just no comparison.  Skip the midnight snacks and go to bed, then wake up and fix yourself a breakfast of champions, because you are one.

…and with that…


Be a champion

If you have the willpower to set your alarm an hour earlier and actually obey when it calls you out of bed, you are a champion.  You can then apply that willpower at the office, in class, and pretty much anywhere else you want to accomplish something.

Showing up to wherever you need to be in the morning with a workout under your belt (and a nutritious breakfast literally under your belt) gives you so much more energy than if you arrive still wiping cobwebs out of your eyes and nursing a triple-shot latte.

The better you feel, the more likely you’ll be to make positive and productive choices. Getting up early sets you up for success all day long.

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Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

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